THIS is the second part of our “Ageing Parents” series, where we explore some of the situations and challenges that may arise as families move through the later stages of life.
It is simply something to think about as we all grow older.
Although governments do their best with the limited funds available through taxes and other revenue, it is almost impossible to satisfy everyone.
Some people feel they fall through the cracks and receive very little assistance, while others appear to receive more than their fair share.
It is a delicate balancing act, and recent changes to support systems have highlighted just how complicated the issue can be.
For many elderly Australians, navigating the My Aged Care system can be difficult.
Many older people grew up in a time when they simply handled things themselves and did not want to “be a burden” on others. Admitting they need help with everyday tasks can be a major step.
Even after taking that step, the process can involve a long wait before assistance becomes available, particularly if they are unfamiliar with the stages and procedures required to access services.
Helping ageing parents can also be stressful for families.
Naturally we want the best for them, but it can be difficult to change long-held ways of thinking.
People are generally living longer than previous generations, and in earlier times large families often meant that one child stayed at home to care for parents in their later years.
Today, life is very different. Many households have both partners working, and careers can take people away from their hometowns – sometimes even to another state.
So how do families navigate these challenges? It may come down to a shared sense of responsibility, along with a little give and take.
For many of us, our parents once seemed indestructible.
Concerns about safety often grow when elderly parents live alone. Families worry about the risk of falls – and unfortunately many do occur.
Yet some older people resist using a cane, walker or wheelchair until they feel they truly need one. By then, it can sometimes be too late.
A fall can quickly create new difficulties and force children to make decisions affecting both their parents and themselves.
These are not easy issues to face, but they are realities many families will encounter as time goes on – and perhaps, one day, our own children will face the same questions as we grow older.
